Anthony Berry Performance and Sustainability Coach · I create a confidential space where senior NHS leaders can stop carrying everything alone and reconnect with the wisdom, clarity, and solutions they already possess.
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Where Is Being Highly Relied Upon Creating the Greatest Personal Cost?
You may be experienced, capable and trusted by the people around you.
You may also be carrying more than other people can see.
The pressure may appear as difficulty switching off, interrupted sleep, a diary that belongs to everyone else, guilt when setting boundaries or the feeling that you must hold everything together.
This short stress assessment will help you identify where being highly relied upon is creating the greatest cost in your life and leadership.
It will help you reflect on:
✓ What is currently draining the most energy
✓ Which pressures continue following you outside work
✓ Where your wellbeing is being repeatedly postponed
✓ Which pattern may deserve attention first
Your result is not a judgement about your resilience, commitment or professional ability. It is a starting point for recognising what you are carrying and what may need to change.
You do not need to solve everything today.
Begin by identifying where the pressure is showing up.
This assessment is intended for personal reflection and coaching purposes. It is not a clinical or medical diagnosis.
What is this? A free 5-minute personal stress inventory mapping where your stress is concentrated across four areas.
Who is it for? Senior NHS leaders in clinical and nursing leadership roles.
When do I use it? When you can no longer tell whether you are managing pressure or just absorbing it.
What problem does it prevent? Reaching burnout before you notice the warning signs, because the pressure has become normalised.
Does any of this sound familiar?
You cannot switch off at the end of the working day. You are still processing decisions, conversations, and worries at midnight.
You wake up exhausted before the day has even started.
You feel responsible for everyone else, but you have stopped putting yourself on the priority list.
This free assessment takes 5 minutes. It will show you exactly where your stress is concentrated and which area needs your attention most urgently.
🔒 Your answers stay private. Nothing here is visible to your employer, manager or team. If you choose to view your results, your name, email, role and answers are sent only to Anthony Berry so he can follow up personally, never shared with anyone else. You will be asked to confirm this before your results are sent. Full details in the Privacy Policy.
1 Your Details
Used to send your completed assessment to Anthony so he can follow up personally. Your result will appear on this page after successful submission.
2 Your Stress Level Right Now
Before you begin, take 30 seconds to record how you are feeling today. This becomes your baseline.
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Calm and in controlCompletely overwhelmed
3 What Is Causing You Stress?
List what is currently draining you. For each one, rate how much impact it will have if nothing changes, in 6 months and in 12 months. Example: A short-staffed rota is not fully in your control. How you protect one boundary within it often is.
Source of StressCategoryImpact in 6 months (1-10)Impact in 12 months (1-10)
Your Overall Stress Load
Add your stressors and impact scores above
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💡 Example strategies for senior healthcare leaders (click to expand)
Setting boundaries without guilt
Set a hard stop time two evenings per week and put it in your calendar as a meeting. · Ask your deputy to cover handovers on specific days. · Use a prewritten response for out-of-hours messages: "Thank you, I will pick this up tomorrow morning."
Switching off at the end of the day
Create a physical transition ritual (change clothes, walk to the car, listen to one song) that signals the end of the working day. · Write a "brain dump" list before leaving so unfinished tasks are on paper, not in your head.
Sleep and recovery
No phones in the bedroom after 9:30pm. · Replace late-night email checking with 5 minutes of slow breathing. · Keep a notepad by the bed to capture 3am thoughts rather than processing them.
Guilt and identity
Schedule one hour per week that is yours alone, non-negotiable, in the diary. · Reframe leaving on time as modelling healthy leadership for your team.
Delegation and workload
Identify one task per week you are doing that someone else could do at 80% of your standard. Delegate it. · Say no to one non-essential commitment this month.
4 Your Results: Where Your Stress Is Concentrated
Based on your responses, here is where your pressure is greatest. The highlighted pillar is the area that needs your attention most urgently.
What your answers may be telling you
Your result is not a judgement about your resilience, commitment or capability.
It may indicate that being highly relied upon is creating a personal cost that deserves closer attention.
Knowing where the pressure appears is an important first step. Lasting change also requires an understanding of the beliefs, identity, expectations and working conditions that may be keeping the pattern in place.
If these questions have helped you recognise what you are carrying, The Hidden Cost of Being Relied Upon will help you explore what needs to change beneath the plan.
Only 20% of lasting change comes from skills, tools and strategies. The other 80% comes from transforming your mindset, identity and habits.
Now you can see it clearly. Let's do something about it.
Your results show exactly where your stress is hitting hardest. If you would like support working through it, a good next step is a single, focused Leadership Reset Session, a 75 to 90 minute paid session (£247) designed to solve one pressing leadership problem and leave you with a practical plan.
Book a free 20-minute call first if you would like to talk it through and check it is the right fit. No pressure, no obligation.
